Over the past year and a half, I became someone I am not. Someone that does things that are not me. You are probably thinking, but if you did them they are you, just a you that you didn’t know.
I really hope that is not the case. I regret things I did. I wish I had communicated better. I wish I had acted more adult. I didn’t, I was selfish, childish and ridiculous. I did things to get attention. I said i wouldn’t do those things anymore. I didn’t get the attention, I did them again. So now I can add liar to the list.
Sigh.
Last July, I met a man. A sexy, smart, strong, caring man. We text. We met. He made me dinner. Wow what a first kiss.
He works a lot. I asked vague questions. I didn’t think he wanted me.
I said he didn’t have time for me. Weeks went by, I saw a pic of him with a female. I got jealous. I reached out again. Tried again. Tried subtle again. Fucked around with other guys. Said I would stop. Said I wanted him. I did/do want him. Just ask the butterflies.
15 months, 20 guys, an ex-girlfriend (him not me) and several chances and I still want him. I want him more than before. I can make every excuse for why I did what I did but it doesn’t take back what I did. I screwed up. I was selfish and childish. I hurt him. Repeatedly.
He was over the other night. We were sitting there talking about work and life, not about us. Never about us. I was sitting behind him rubbing his back and laying on him. I didn’t want to let go. I laid my head on his back, arms around him. Tears started to well. I fought it. I screwed up, I know it. I don’t deserve another chance but damn we could be something great.
I don’t know how to make it right. I don’t think I can ever make it right. I want to try. Life is too short. We have been each others lives this long, there is a reason for it. I want him in my life. I want him to hang out with my kids. I want to talk about the world. I want to hold him and make him feel loved and happy.
I want to raise him up.
I think I love him!
But how do I get him to see that I had a bad time and that stretch wasn’t the true me??